Mr Casanova; don't hate the player, hate the game!

“If I could re-arrange the alphabet, I’d put u and I together” “Did it hurt when you fell from heaven?” Do either of these pick up lines sound familiar? I’m sure for most of you girls out there they do, as I have yet to meet a guy who does not have at least one cheesy line credited to his name. Let’s just face it, guys and girls do not always think on the same wave length.

The other night I was in my room with one of my girl friends listening to sad love songs. She was crying over yet another guy that had broken her heart and I myself was miserable after not hearing from my boyfriend for two solid days. Why is it that guys seem to hold so much power over us girls? Do they know that they hold our fragile hearts in their hands? I suddenly got to thinking of all the things that guys do in an attempt to win girls over, but once they have the trophy, will they continue parading it around? Or will they set off to win the next challenge.

It is a known fact that men enjoy the chase. If a girl gives it up too fast or too soon the man will probably lose interest. But why should we conform to playing childish games? It’s like primary school all over again when we used to play kissing catches; only now it’s more complicated with a whole new set of rules. Don’t let him catch you, but don’t run too fast ahead. Surely this philosophy confuses things even further? You want him to catch you and he says he wants you to stop running away from him, so why is there so much athleticism going on?!.

Whether we like to acknowledge it or not, we all play games on some level. Whilst guys claim that girls confuse them with their mixed signals, girls seem to feel the same way about guys. Could it be that we all have our guards up in an attempt to prevent getting hurt? On a subconscious level we play these games because we don’t want to land up heartbroken, but more often than not, they do not help our situation.

Love is a universal language. It is something that catches you by surprise and takes you on a ride that you will never forget. Many guys however see Love as “too complicated” and prefer the idea of one night stands and less serious relationships as they have “no strings attached”. I and many girls alike have been seduced by seemingly charming and charismatic young men. He claims that he is “not like other guys” and you believe him. Fast forward a couple of months and that prince charming is now referred to as “that idiot” and is no longer sending you sweet sms’s promising you the world. The girl is left bitter and more convinced than ever that single is the way to go.

That famous saying “don’t get mad, get even” will come into play and the girl will be desperate to seek revenge with “that idiot” and possibly get together with his best friend or his brother in an attempt to do so (like one of my friends did). Let me just advise you that this is not a good idea. It will just leave you even more broken hearted as the “bro’s before ho’s” fraternity is never kind.

Relationships are hard but they are also inevitable. Having your heart broken is devastating but it is a part of growing up. Falling in love is the best feeling in the world but only if the feelings are mutual. Guys and girls often misinterpret one another but they need each other if they want to experience life. Life means experiencing, loving, feeling and taking chances. So the next time a guy tries his luck to sweet talk you, don’t turn him down on the merit of your past bad experiences because although you claim you can’t live with guys any longer, you definitely can’t live without them!